Is there such a person as ”The One”?

Or are there different “Ones” at different times of one’s life?

Or is there nothing but a series of hopes and emotional investments, to which we can attach an ever increasing number of disappointments, deceits and failures?

Is it in any way realistic – or even recommendable – to vow to love one’s partner till death do us part?

A representative for the man/woman, polarity, sexuality and love

The partner is

• Not The Man/Woman in person – since there are many of those
• Not polarity itself – since it is collective
• Not sexuality itself – since there are many possibilities
• Not love itself – since it is collective and divine
• Not life itself – since it is larger than you and me

But the chosen partner must be a worthy and beautiful representative for these qualities. And a human being with whom you can learn what you need to learn about man/woman, polarity, sexuality, life and love. A relationship in which you can cherish the fact that your life is being nourished and enriched from being with a person, who demonstrates these qualities with beauty and dignity. Or who at least does her or his best to become a good representative.

The meaning of life can never be attributed to another person. But the other person may be a wonderful gift, who opens for new learning processes and expressions of life.

You should never take the other for granted! In the moment you do so, awareness shuts its eye, and makes you vulnerable in a bad way. Then you close your eyes to reality. Instead you must thank for the collaboration and learning processes that the other person offers you. This will provide the necessary humility and awareness.

Till the process us part
If a tantric relationship is based on process, you will perceive it as realism, that as life and process can bring two people together, teach them a number of things and give great joy, the process may one day part the same two people.

This is not a consumerist view, nor is it pessimism, and in no way it means that relationships based on tantra are superficial or of short duration. But it is a realistic and humble understanding of the conditions that love gives us.